Thursday, March 19, 2009

Think Big, Act Little


If you have a dream, if there is something you want to achieve, a goal you want to reach it is said that you must first establish the vision and then second of all hold on to the vision and work forward from that point and move on.

Where a lot of us stumble, get frustrated and eventually give up is that we picture our goal in the future, as something to work toward thus making it distant and far away and somewhat inaccessible.

I've been doing some reading on visualisation lately and how to make your goals become reality and what seems to be the part of the dream-making that we often miss is that while holding the vision is important, it's even more important to hold on to how we will feel once we achieve that vision. Once we've done that we adopt the feeling as current and then to hold on to how we feel now that we have our dream realised.

And then as we hold on to that feeling and do all the little tasks, one by one, that lead you to your goals, life will unfold before you in a way that makes the dream a reality. A writer does not suddenly become a writer the day his book is published. That happens the first time pen is put to paper and something is created on the page. The same goes for the painter or the sculptor or the pianist.

How many auditions do you think Julia Roberts went to before she was cast in a film role? Was she not an actor until she did Pretty Woman or won the Oscar? No, she was an actor the first time she acted. Every audition, every meeting, every script, every commercial, all of the little steps she took along the way were instrumental in her becoming the success she is today. She was always an actor.

Our society identifies us by our paid work. So if you are a secretary but write at night you will be known as a secretary. And many of us fall into that trap because it's how we are conditioned to think and behave. If you are working at your life's work and feel as though your paid work is your calling then of course you identify by that, the two aren't mutually exclusive. However if it isn't, if it's something you have to do for money, even if you like the work yet feel it isn't soul satisfying and particularly if you hate the work, then start to work towards your vision, your true dream and start identifying yourself with that.

I can't call myself a writer, I've never published a book, I've never sold and article, I'm just a stay at home mom(the most important job on earth by the way). That's how I've identified myself for the last 5 years until just recently although I've written many things over the past 5 years. When I look back now I see that I've created quite a body of work over those years that had nothing to do with being a mom to little children although they inspired much of it. I've been a writer all along. I just didn't say it, not even to myself.

Recently though, I've been more motivated to take the little steps that I need to take to be a writer. It's as though a dam burst and I just have to now. I write every day. I tell people I write. I show people things I've written and I hold the image in my mind and the feeling in my heart that I am a writer. I've let go of all the things that held me back in the past and I'm making all the little steps I need to make to reach the goals I have. I feel like a writer.

If you have a dream, something you have always wanted to do, start identifying with the dream, start taking the steps towards your goal and start labeling yourself and identifying yourself accordingly. If you have another job to pay the bills, and we all have to bring water, chop wood as they say, then do so with a happy heart but you do not have to replace your dream with that. It's just something you have to do for now as you work, in little ways towards your life's true purpose.

Think big and act little and step by step, moment by moment you are living the vision you hold and you will feel you are already where you want to be. For there isn't anywhere else you can be except this moment and to be true to your most authentic self you have to be living the purpose you've come here to fulfill. You can do no less.

12 comments:

Double-Dolphin said...
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Double-Dolphin said...

I can find a little conflict in your post, on the one hand, you talk about having a dream and visualizing it, on the other you talk about what the society recognizes you to be. The two need not, and indeed in many cases aren't, the same thing. I can site one example off the top of my head, and that is of famous Bengali author (I doubt you've heard of him) Shankar.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mani_Shankar_Mukherjee

He has been, and continues to be an employee of The Calcutta Electric Supply Corporation, although he is far better known as an author. Infact, many people aren't aware of his job.

About the Julia Roberts example, we are something even without picturing it, aren't we? I was always good with languages and doing funny voices, and was always a good talker, and my mom always thought I'd be great on radio, and today, that is my full time job!

But, to be very frank, I never had a dream, about anything. Thinking about the future is something I just cannot do. I take it as it comes...and it seems to work for me.

Audrey said...

Have you been reading Shakti Gawain? I read her stuff several years ago, and need to revisit it. I like the idea of not holding our dreams for a future date, but making them happen NOW!
xoxoxo

Lia Mack said...

I agree! I've been a closet writer all my life, but recently came out and even though I don't have a 'book' to show people, most if not all don't care. They too have dreams and feel free to share them when I do

Breeze said...

Double Dolphin...I think you missed this sentence " If you are working at your life's work and feel as though your paid work is your calling then of course you identify by that, the two aren't mutually exclusive."

and then this one " If you have another job to pay the bills, and we all have to bring water, chop wood as they say, then do so with a happy heart but you do not have to replace your dream with that."

and actually, I am familiar with Shankar and he is a good example.

While we ARE something without picturing it, many of us get off track and identify with what society expects us to be rather than what we are. If you don't hold a future dream in your mind, that's ok, for YOU, but others may need to utilise certain tools to get back on a track they've detoured from.

What you are doing, how you are living your life works exactly right for you. It's actually what works for me as well. Now. But we are all different.

So I disagree there is any conflict, likely my post just doesn't apply to you.

Breeze said...

Actually, I think I'm thinking of a different person, not Sankar, I couldn't get your link to work..

Audrey, not familiar with her work..off to google, Thank you!

nollyposh said...

Thankyou Breeze a very inspiring post <3

Daria said...

Can't remember where I read it ... but if you spend 10-15 minutes a day on your hobby ... it can become your career.

Debbie said...

very needed.. as always!!!!

Double-Dolphin said...

Aaah!...apologies, I misunderstood. How did you know about Shankar? Have you read anything by him?

Chez said...

Oh Breeze 'Thank You'
I am reminded that I have always been very good at being 'Someones Wife' or 'Someones Mother' and usually at my expense.
Thank you for reminding us that society identifies us by our paid work. Somehow we allow it to become our perception also.
Now I am able to live the dream and love the life. Born to write...
And so we shall my friend...

Breeze said...

Chez
It is good to be someones mother and someones daughter but to do it from a place of being completely your authentic self means you sacrifice nothing even in your giving. Keep doing what you love to do.

Double-Dolphin, no apologies required, there's a lot going on in that post, easy to miss something. I appreciate all of the time you took to comment!

Breeze